Beyond Anger Management – The Happiness Concern
Counselling, Psychotherapy and Life Coaching for couples and individuals in Sheffield and South Yorkshire
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Beyond Anger Management
People come to see me because they want help in understanding and managing their anger in their lives and relationships.
I provide an empathic relational approach to anger and rage, which means I work within a specialised theoretical framework and model known as empathic anger management and have had specialist training by Sue Parker Hall who developed and trained me to work competently in this way. I additionally have specialised supervision to enable me to support a person to develop and recover their natural ability to process their life experiences. I will engage you in a passionate and human relationship where all feelings, sensations, thoughts and images are welcomed. (Sue Parker Hall 2009)
I have provided anger management therapy for many people, whether they are male or female and helped them resolve therapeutically their anger and rage issues. There are no gender differences when it comes to anger or rage, I believe people demonstrate their anger differently, and when two people both have anger issues in a relationship, that can lead to a tangled web of problems. Therefore I work with couples in providing a specialised therapy programme, joint couple therapy sessions, or therapy for individuals.
I welcome the opportunity to talk to you about how I can help you, either as a couple, or individually….
My approach and views to anger and rage
Anger can gain a foothold in the most loving and caring relationships, and it maybe that you are either the person with the anger problem, or you may be living with someone who is angry.
Anger can erode and damage the intimacy between you both and can shake the very foundation of your relationship, or any relationship that you value, as well as pose a threat to your general well-being and health. When anger comes into a relationship, trust and closeness goes out.
Living with someone who is angry
Someone who lives with an angry partner can feel drained and hopeless, you may find that:
- You rearrange your life to avoid triggering your partners anger
- You feel you are to blame for their anger
- You try and cover up your partners behaviour and explain away the anger
- You achieve reasoning with your partner to only find that they promise never to do it again, but then it starts all over again.
Its easy to get trapped into your partners anger pattern and way of relating. Yet at the same time you may be sending a message out to your partner that their anger is acceptable as they get what they first set out to achieve.
I can help you become strong, and help you understand the patterns of relating in your relationship, so you can decide how you want to live your life.
I have anger problems
It’s really hard when you start to recognise that you are struggling with anger, you are probably feeling confused, and have tried really hard not to keep getting angry, but yet again you find yourself in a similar situation of conflict, or feeling out of control. You may have reached a stage where your relationships are under strain, or worse still your partner is thinking of leaving you, or you may be facing losing your children. It may be that recently you have been in trouble with the authorities because of your feelings. You may behave in the following ways:
- You have mood swings, and are sulky and quiet for no reason
- At times you are completely irrational
- You become irritated by people easily and have a low tolerance to life
- You feel depressed and withdraw from people
- Feel numb and a coldness within yourself
- Scream and shout constantly
- You are argumentative
- Things trigger your anger for no reason
- You become stressed easily and feel pent up inside
- You may have road rage
- You can even hit out at someone, or want to fight
After feeling anger like this you may feel remorse and guilty, and possibly that’s why you may be reading this, because you’ve recognised you can’t help yourself any more.
I will help you to start to untangle the pattern you are stuck in, when you contact me, we will arrange a face to face meeting so I can understand more of what is happening in your life, and how you want to change.
Ways and methods of managing anger:
There are many different ways to approach anger, and some interventions have benefits such as:
Deep breathing, relaxation, walking or leaving the situation, counting to ten, getting some fresh air’
‘Bashing cushions, punching bags, screaming’
All of these will have a temporary effect and no doubt something that you may have already tried I won’t encourage you to do any of these. I think it can induce shame and be embarrassing for you.
Beyond Anger Management targets the deep roots of your anger or rage, it is a gentle, respectful and effective approach.
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